Despite popular belief, I’m an advocate for unpopular opinions too. When Kanye West went on his political and racial rants, I did what I do best ... played the angel’s advocate. I may not agree with everything that comes out of his mouth, but I still love Kanye West! Go ahead unfollow me and throw stones at my glass house, I’ll be fine, trust me. I’m the kind of girl who finds a way to love people regardless of their beliefs, opinions, race, sexuality and anything else. I understand that everybody’s different and I embrace those unique characteristics.
Often, I get flack about seeing the good in everything despite what the world shows me. I don’t know how to be any other way. Is that a such a bad thing though?
When people come to me about relationship problems, I approach it from the perspective of reaching a mutual agreement and giving each party the benefit of the doubt. My girlfriends hate this. “You’re supposed to be on my side,” they say. Why am I choosing sides? Why can’t I do what’s in the best interest of love?
Most people hate to come to me for advice, because they don’t like my method for dealing with things. Melodrama I treat with silence, challenges are lessons and haters are reminders of what I believe about myself to be true. Nah, but nobody wants to hear that. Instead people mistake my silence for weakness and think I should waste time putting people in their place. For what?
I’m a strong believer that everything happens for a reason. I also believe that no matter how different we are, we are all one. Therefore what I do unto you I also do unto myself.
My coworker told me a story about a waitress who received a $5,000 tip and decided to split it amongst the other waitresses. I thought this was brilliant and selfless, while my coworker disagreed. I know all too well from experience why this selfless act was indeed beneficial for all involved.
Last year, I was given a lump sum of money, so I gave half of it away. When a family member was down on their luck, I ended up giving them the remaining half I had left over. I didn’t do it to receive kudos or to be a good person, nor did I expect anyone to pay me back. I knew that God had given me that money to help others, so I did. Less than 24 hours later, I received an unexpected sum of money that was more than what I had originally given away to others. Case in point that what goes around comes back around.
Even when I go through things, I’m always looking at life objectively. During challenging times, I ask myself, ‘What is this moment trying to teach me?’ If someone is aggressive or verbally abusive, I get silent. I know better than to waste my energy or time on something that won’t matter 24 hours from now.
So, I have a reputation for being the Angel’s Advocate. If you come to me upset that your significant other didn’t answer a text message within a specified time frame, expect me to give you a 101 reason why that happened. I’m not going to jump down the rabbit whole of conclusions that are 99% false. When shit goes wrong as they sometimes do, expect me to find the good in everything all the time.
If you can take away two messages from this post, they would be:
Give everyone the benefit of the doubt.
Be optimistic, because everything is always working out in your favor.